Personality Development

Don't compare yourself with any one in this world.

If you compare, you are insulting yourself.

No one will manufacture a lock without a key.

Similarly God won't give problems without solutions.

Life laughs at you when you are unhappy...

Life smiles at you when

you are happy...
Life salutes you when

you make others happy...

Every successful person has a painful story.
Every painful story has a successful ending.

Accept the pain and get ready for success.

Easy is to judge the mistakes of others.
Difficult is to recognize our own mistakes.

It is easier to protect your feet with slippers than to cover the earth with carpet.

No one can go back and change a bad beginning;

But anyone can start now and create a successful ending.

If a problem can be solved, no need to worry about it.

If a problem cannot be solved what is the use of worrying?

If you miss an opportunity don't fill the eyes with tears.

 It will hide another better opportunity in front of you

"Changing the Face" can change nothing.
But "Facing the Change" can change everything.

Don't complain about others;
Change yourself if you want peace.

Mistakes are painful when they happen.

But year's later collection of mistakes is called experience, which leads to success.

Be bold when you loose
and be calm when you win.

Heated gold becomes ornament.  Beaten copper becomes wires.   Depleted
stone becomes statue.  So the more pain you get in life you become more valuable.

Exercise of the brain

Exercise of the brain is as important as exercise of the muscles.  As we grow older, it's important that we keep mentally alert.  The saying; "If you  don't use it, you will lose it," also applies to the brain, so.....

 

Following is a very private way to gauge your loss or
non-loss of intelligence.  Take the following test and determine if you are losing it or are still "with it."


OK, relax, clear your mind and... begin.

1.       What do you put in a toaster?

Answer: 

"bread."  If you said "toast," then give up now and go do something else.   Try not to hurt yourself.

If you said, "Bread," go to Question 2.

2.       Say "silk" five times.  Now spell "silk."  What do cows drink?

Answer: 

Cows drink water.  If you said "milk," please do not attempt the next question.  Your brain is obviously over stressed and may even overheat.  It may be  that you need to content yourself with reading something more appropriate, such as Children's World."

If you said "water," proceed to question 3

3.       If a red house is made from red bricks, and a blue house is made from blue bricks, and a pink house is made from pink bricks and a black house is made from black bricks, what is a green house made from?

Answer:  

Greenhouses are made from glass.  If you said, "Green bricks,"  what the devil are you still doing reading these questions?

If you said "glass," then go on to Question 4.

4.       Twenty years ago, a plane was flying at 20,000 feet over Germany. If
you recall, Germany at the time was politically divided into West
Germany and East Germany.  Anyway, during the flight, TWO of the engines failed. The pilot, realizing that the last remaining engine is also
failing, decides on a crash landing procedure..... Unfortunately the third engine fails before he has time to attempt an emergency landing,
and the plane crashes smack in the middle of "no man's land" between East Germany and West Germany.

Where would you bury the survivors?
 
. . In East Germany or West Germany or in "no man's land"?

Answer:

You don't, of course, bury survivors. 
If you said ANYTHING else, you are a real dunce and you must NEVER try to rescue anyone from a plane crash. 
Your efforts would not be appreciated.

If you said, "You don't bury the survivors," proceed to question. 5

5.        If the hour hand on a clock moves 1/60 of a degree every minute how many degrees will the hour hand move in one hour?

Answer:

One degree.  If you said, "360 degrees" or anything other than "one degree," you are to be congratulated on getting this far, but you are obviously out of your league.  Turn in your pencil, and exit the room.

6.       Without using a calculator -- You are driving a
bus from London to Milford Haven in Wales  In London, 17 people get on the bus.  In Reading, six people get off the bus, and nine people get on.  In Swindon, two people get off and four get on.  In Cardiff, 11 people get off and 16 people get on.  In Swansea, three people get off and five people get on.  In  Carmathen, six people get off and three get on.  You then arrive at Milford Haven.

What was the name of the bus driver?

o  Answer: Oh, for crying out loud!  Don't you remember?  It was YOU!!! You were the bus driver!!!

o  Now pass this along to all your "friends" and hope they do better than you did!

Power to Forgive

Power to Forgive

“For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you:

But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.”

- Jesus

“Forgiveness is the fragrance that flowers breathe when they are trampled upon.”

“He who cannot forgive others, breaks the bridge over which he himself must pass; for every man has need to be forgiven.”

GEORGE HERBERT

“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.”

LEWIS B. SMEDES

“The Weak can never forgive.
Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”

MAHATMA GANDHI

“Yes, this is what good is:
To forgive evil. There is no other good.”

ANTONIO PORCHIA

REMEMBER THIS…

When the concentration camp at Ravensbrück, Germany, was liberated by the Allies after World War II, a piece of torn wrapping paper was found, on which an unknown prisoner had scribbled these lines:

“Oh Lord, remember not only the men and women of good will, but also those of ill will. But do not remember all the suffering they have inflicted on us; remember the fruits we have brought forth, thanks to this suffering – our comradeship, our loyalty, our humility, our courage, our generosity, the greatness of heart which has grown out of all this. And when they come to judgment, let all the fruits which we have borne be their forgiveness.”

LOVE ENOUGH

“You may feel that what you’ve suffered is unpardonable, beyond forgiveness, but God can lift that burden and give you a change of heart.
The miracle-working love of God is love enough to forgive – and to help you forgive.”

GABRIEL SARMIENTO

“Father forgive them,
for they know not what they do…”

-Jesus

You can receive God’s forgiveness by accepting Jesus as your Savior & asking Him into your heart. All you have  to do is say this little prayer:

“Dear Jesus, I open my life and heart to You now, and accept you as my Savior. Pease forgive me for the wrongs I’ve done, give me Your gift of eternal life, and help me get to know You and Your love and truth. Amen.”

“Be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.”

MONEY

MONEY

It can buy a House

But not a Home

It can buy a Bed

But not Sleep

It can buy a Clock

But not Time

It can buy you a Book

But not Knowledge

It can buy you a Position

But not Respect

It can buy you Medicine

But not Health

It can buy you Blood

But not Life

It can buy you Sex

But not Love

So you see money isn't everything.

I tell you all this because I am your Friend,

and as your Friend I want to take away your

pain and suffering.....

so send me all your money and I will suffer

for you.

A truer Friend than me you will never find.

CASH ONLY PLEASE.

A Tribute To Mothers

A Tribute To Mothers

A mother is someone who guides and inspires.

She helps us to attain our dreams and desires.

Wisdom and insight are part of her way,

and her faith in her children brightens their days.

All mothers are rich when they love their children. There are no poor mothers, no ugly ones, no old ones. Their love is always the most beautiful of joys.

                              —Maurice Maeterlinck (1862-1949)

She broke the bread into two fragments and gave them to the children, who ate with avidity.
       "She hath kept none for herself," grumbled the sergeant.
       "Because she is not hungry," said a soldier.
       "Because she is a mother," said the sergeant.

                    —Victor Hugo (1802-1885)

What a mother can do …

My mother said to me, "If you become a soldier, you'll be a general; if you become a monk, you'll end up as the pope." Instead I became a painter and wound up as Picasso.

      A partially deaf boy came home from school one day carrying a note from officials at the school. The note suggested that the parents take the boy out of school, claiming that he was "too stupid to learn."
     

      The boy's mother read the note and said, "My son Tom isn't 'too stupid to learn.' I'll teach him myself." And so she did.
      When Tom died many years later, the people of the United States of America paid tribute to him by turning off the nation's lights for one full minute. You see, this Tom had invented the light bulb—and not only that, but motion pictures and the record player. In all, Thomas Edison had more than one thousand patents to his credit.

My mother was the making of me.

—Thomas A. Edison (1847-1931)

An ounce of mother is worth a pound of clergy.

You may have tangible wealth untold;
       Caskets of jewels and coffers of gold.
       Richer than I you can never be—
       I had a mother who read to me.

   —Strickland Gillian (1869-1954)

The role of a mother is probably the most important career a woman can have.

—Janet Mary Riley (1915- ), U.S. Lawyer and Writer   

...but only one MOTHER in the whole world.

—Kate Douglas Wiggin  (1856-1923), U.S.  Author and Educator

Life began with waking up and loving my mother's face.

—George Eliot (1819-1880), British Novelist

Motherhood is the most important of all the professions...

...requiring more knowledge than any other department in human affairs.

 —Elizabeth Cady Stanton (1815-1902)

Nothing happens by accident

Nothing happens by accident...

If one day when you wake up, you would find on your bed a beautifully wrapped present with delicate bows, you would open it before even washing your face, curious about what is inside....

Maybe what you find is something you do not like very much...then you would put away the box wondering what to do with the  present...

But, if the next day you find another present, you would open it also and, if this time you find something inside that you like very much....

A memory from someone that is far away....a beautiful clothing you saw on a window shop...the keys to a new car....a beautiful winter coat...or just a beautiful flower from somebody that remembered you.....

This happens every day, but we do not realize it...

Every day when we wake up, it is there, before us, a present sent to us by God....a whole day to use in the best possible way

Sometimes it comes with problems, issues that we do not seem to be able to solve.  Sometimes it comes with sadness, deception, even tears...

But other times it comes full of surprises, happiness, success and achievements......

What is important is that every day we receive a present, wrapped especially for us while we sleep: THE NEXT DAY.

We are presented this box with colored bows, no matter what the day brings........

That day when we wake up every morning is a PRESENT.....

The present that life gives us.

It is not always what we wish or what we hope for......

But it is the best for us, what we need most, what we have to learn.....what we need to grow...

Open your PRESENT every day, giving thanks first to the Creator that gave it to you, without thinking what is inside the box.

If today you do not receive the present you wanted, wait for the next one....and appreciate what you received today

Tomorrow... Open your present with love and enthusiasm, because one day your dreams and the life plan for you will come inside the box, beautifully wrapped for you...

Life does not care about what we want....just about what we need.....

And that is good

May you have a day full of blessings, in which you can feel the loving presence of your Creator, and may the present of every day bring you peace, spiritual growth, and enlightment on all we still have to learn about every day, and the plan life has for us, every day.....

ALWAYS BE OPTIMISTIC

ALWAYS BE OPTIMISTIC: YOU WILL BE THE WINNER !!!

I searched and saw the cleaned blue sky. Again, I searched and found the crystal ocean. It only reinforced the belief that I always held, among all the precious things to be found; success is easily the rarest one.  Now, imagine how happy I am to have it. Either I will find a way or make it one for another success that I dream.

Today I am a little thing but tomorrow I will definitely be something when I reach to the destination by properly designing life with full of determination and inner willpower.  I think, when a man is tired of ‘hope’ and ‘duty,’ he is tired of life.

A winner never quits and the quitter never wins. Just do your constant duty and karma for your targeted vision. However, its possible result is beyond your direct control. No matter,  just act!

There is no thing, as a great success without great willpower. If you do not shake the tree a bit, the golden apples of good luck might not fall into your lap. 

Life is matter of chance or choice? Fully concentrate in your mission and positively dream for your vision.

Sure, you will either find a way or make it one! Never compromise, fear and surrender with challenges: just face and make another strong foundation from them, which will make you more  determined in your goal.

You are surviving with full of elusions and mirages. Worrying about the temporary possessions are the root causes of your dissatisfaction and remorse.

Changes are permanent and universal law. You always fear of change but it is the only reality of your life.

Nobody can harm and easily make you feel inferior without your consent. If you negatively  react to the altered results, no one, but yourself have to suffer from your own reactionary chosen habits.

Time is great healer of everything but you have to pay the debt to achieve the  success. The debt is your continuous action that is under your direct control. Do or die: is choice and an outcome of your reaction for the external forces.

Just be a target-oriented worrier, you may loose the battle but not the war: never surrender, just do it now!  Always keep in mind, where and why you are heading for otherwise you may reach another destination.

Everyday living requires courage, if life is to be effective and bring happiness.  As long as there is life, there is danger. Courage in danger is half the betel and the test of it  is not to die but to live.

If you can find a way with no obstacles, it probably does not lead you anywhere. To live is not merely to breath, it is to act. 

You are what you repeatedly feed your mind and frequently do in action. Remind yourself you can be anything that you choose. 

 

Raj K Pandey

GPO Box: 19862

Kathmandu (Nepal)

Mobile: 98510-86884

rajkpandey2000@yahoo.com

rajkpandey2000@hotmail.com

Finally, No one can hurt me without my consent. I am what I am today because of the choice I made yesterday. You can choose: no reactive, but proactive habit for peace, progress and materialize the visions that you have in your life for the sake of success.

Why are you worrying about seriously ? It only passes away your present moments but does never change an unexpected possible results to be occurred.

THE ART OF LIVING

THE ART OF LIVING –EPICTETUS  !!!

Happiness and freedom begin with a clear understanding of one principle: Some things are within our control and some things are not. Within our control are our own opinions, aspirations, desires and the things that repel us. These areas are quite rightly our concern because they are directly subject to our influence. We always have a choice about the contents and character of our inner lives. But if you try to  control others, you will become a frustrated, anxious and fault-finding person.

Keep your attention focused entirely on what is truly your own concern and be clear that what belongs to others is their business and none of yours. If it concerns anything outside your control, train yourself not to worry about it.

When something happens, the only thing in your power is your attitude towards it. You can either accept it or reject it. It is not things that disturb us, but our interpretation makes us worried. Things and people are not what we wish them to be nor what they seem to be, they are what they are.

Things themselves do not hurt us nor do other people. How we view these things in another matter. It is our attitudes and reactions that make us trouble. We can not choose our external reverses circumstances but we can always choose how we respond to them.

We can not control which roles are assigned to us, it must be our business to act our given role in a best manner. Just give an impeccable performance. If you are supposed to be a reader, just read the books with full of interest and enthusiasms>

In trying to please others, we find ourselves misdirected towards what lies outside our sphere of influence. In doing so we lose our hold on our life’s purpose. Do not try to seem wise to others. If you want to live a wise life, live it on your own eyes.

Raj K Pandey, MBA, MA

GPO Box: 19862

Jawalakhel, Lalitpur

Kathmandu (Nepal)

Mobile: 98510-86884

rajkpandey2000@yahoo.com

rajkpandey2000@hotmail.com

ALWAYS THINK POSITIVE

ALWAYS THINK POSITIVE: YOU WILL GET YOUR GOAL  !!!

• Believe with all your heart that you will do what you are supposed to do!
• Think and say only that which you wish to become true!
• We are all the products of our own thoughts. Whatever we concentrate upon, that we are!
• We should learn to live mentally in the ideal that we wish to make real!

JUST DO OR DIE: HE IS ONLY BEATEN WHO ADMITS IT  !!!

• If we are better mental builders we should be infinitely better material builders!
• It is the poverty attitude and the nervousness of our thoughts that has limited us!
• We tend to get what we expect, and if we expect noting we get nothing!
• Every achievement has its origin in the mind, every structure is first a mental structure!

JUST SMILE: NO ONE CAN STOP YOUR INNER HAPPINESS  !!!

• Happiness and freedom begin with an understanding of one principle: Some things are within our control and some things are not!
• Within our control are our own opinions, aspirations, desires and the things that repel us!
• These areas are quite rightly our concern because they are directly subject to our influence!
• We always have a choice about the contents and character of our inner lives!

CONCENTRATE YOUR MIND ON YOUR OWN BUSINESS  !!!

• But if you try to  control others, you will become a frustrated, anxious and fault-finding person!
• Keep your attention focused entirely on what is truly your own concern and be clear that what belongs to others is their business and none of yours!
• If it concerns anything outside your control, train yourself not to worry about it!
• When something happens the only  your attitude towards it is: You can either accept it or reject it!

DO NOT TALK: IN EVERY WORD YOUR REPUTATION DIES  !!!

• It is not things that disturb us, but our interpretation makes us worried!
• Things and people are not what we wish them to be nor what they seem to be, they are what they are!
• Things themselves do not hurt us nor do other people. How we view these things in another matter. It is our attitudes and reactions that make us trouble!
• We can not choose our external circumstances but we can always choose how we respond to them!

THE PROBLEM WE GET: IS FROM OUR OWN THOUGHTS  !!!

• We can not control which roles are assigned to us, it is our business to act our given role in a best manner!
• Just give an impeccable performance. If you are supposed to be a reader, just read the books with full of interest and enthusiasms!
• In trying to please others, we find misdirected towards what lies outside our sphere of influence!
• In doing so we lose our hold on our life’s purpose. Do not try to seem wise to others. If you want to live a wise life, live it on your own eyes!

OUR LIFE’S DESTINY CHANGES WITH OUR THOUGHTS   !!!

• We must conquer inward mental poverty before we can conquer outward poverty!
• The fault is in our thoughts and in our attitude of mind!
• You are capable of doing something much better than what you are doing!
• No one can help another very much when he sees in him a hopeless picture!

Raj K Pandey

GPO Box: 19862

Kathmandu (Nepal)

Mobile: 98510-86884

rajkpandey2000@yahoo.com

rajkpandey2000@hotmail.com

 

THE BIGGEST LITTLE WORDS

THE BIGGEST LITTLE WORDS

There are many things that we can do to Perk up and strengthen our interpersonal relationships. Yet the most effective involves the saying of just three words.

"I'll be there."

 If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night, to take a sick child to hospital, or when your car has broken down some miles from home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase "I'll be there." Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give. When we are truly present for other people, important things happen to them and us. We are renewed in love and friendship. We are restored emotionally and spiritually. Being there is at the very core of civility.

"I miss you."

Perhaps more marriages could be saved and strengthened

Perhaps more marriages could be saved and strengthened

This powerful affirmation tells partners they are wanted, needed, desired and loved.

Consider how ecstatic you would feel, if you received an unexpected phone call from your spouse in the middle of your workday,

just to say "I miss you."

“I respect you.”

Respect is another way of showing love. Respect conveys the feeling that another person is a true equal. If you talk to your children as if they were adults you will strengthen the bonds and become close friends. This applies to all interpersonal relationships.

“Maybe you’re right.”

This phrase is highly effective in diffusing an argument and restoring frayed emotions. The flip side to "maybe your right" is the humility of admitting, "Maybe I'm wrong". Let's face it. When you have a heated argument with someone, all you do is cement the other person's point of view. They, or you, will not change their stance and you run the risk of seriously damaging the relationship between you. Saying "maybe you're right" can open the door to further explore the subject, in which you may then have the opportunity to get your view across in a more rational manner.

“Please forgive me.”

Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people would admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to faults, foibles and failures. A man should never be ashamed to own up that he has been in the wrong, which is saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.

"I thank you."

Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the companionship of good, close friends are those who don't take daily courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for their many expressions of kindness.  On the other hand, people whose circle of friends is severely constricted often do not have the attitude of gratitude.

"Count on me."

A friend is one who walks in when others walk out.

Loyalty is an essential ingredient for true friendship;

it is the emotional glue that bonds people.

Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be steady and true friends.

When troubles come, a good friend is there indicating you can "count on me."

“Let me help.”

The best of friends see a need and try to fill it. When they spot a hurt they do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they pitch in and help.

"I understand you."

People become closer and enjoy each other more

if they feel the other person accepts and understands them.

Letting your spouse know in so many little ways

that you understand them is one of the most powerful tools

for healing your relationship.

This applies to any relationship.

  

"I love you."

Perhaps the most important three words that you can say.

Telling someone that you truly love them satisfies

a person's deepest emotional needs;

the need to belong, to feel appreciated and to be wanted.

Your family, your friends and you, all need to hear those three little words.

I love you.

When spoken or conveyed, these statements have the power to

forge new friendships, deepen old ones

and restore relationships that have cooled.

These three-word phrases can enrich every relationship.

Use them!